I cannot tell you how many times in the past I sat down and asked myself…Do I fit in? Am I enough? Do I need to do something to fit into this group? Am I ‘cool’? Will I ever just fit in?
Growing up in elementary school, I never really thought much of myself. I wondered why I wasn’t the same size as people who were smaller than me. Not to mention I had lighter patches on my darker skin that were more prominent at the time, it made me self-conscious. I always wondered why I wasn’t like the others. But little did I know that the others were just as different, they weren’t ‘perfect’. I didn’t choose to see beyond my opinion and narrow mind. I didn’t realize until much later that God didn’t call me to ‘fit in’, He called me to stand out. And that’s what He wants you to know, you’re not supposed to fit in. You’re supposed to be a light and SHINE.
It took me forever to accept me for…me; I am who I am because God created me that way. He made each and every one of us so differently, yet like His own image (KJV Genesis 1:27 “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”). So yes, I have realized and my eyes have opened…I am beautiful in my own way. And so are you. You’re magnificent! When you realize that each of us are different, but beautiful in their own way…that’s the first step to realizing that you’ll never fit in.
You have to come to understand that not everyone thinks that way; not everyone wants to believe that. Some people think life is nothing more than a competition, and if you don’t fit in…well that just makes you odd. Some groups of people will always think that they’re better than others. But that’s okay, you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life, you’ll never have peace when you’re constantly looking for something better. You must search for people that will genuinely bring out the best in you. Not people that will transform you into someone you’re not, not a person who instantly makes you ‘cooler’ by hanging out with them.
That’s not the point of life…to be ‘cool’. The point of life is to be a light to others, be loving, and never fail to worship God. To be ‘cool’, to ‘fit in’, to 'be a part of the trend'…that’s just temporary…it willfade. But something that will never change, is God’s love for you. You. YOU. The unique person that YOU are. That He created YOU to be. KJV Psalm 139:14 says: “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.”
So, the question is…do I fit in? The answer is no. There is no such thing as ‘fitting in’. There’s so much more to life than trying to fit in and wondering why you’re made a certain way! God made you this way, He formed you, molded you into what makes up you…now isn’t that special?! You’re YOUnique ;)
So, next time when you begin wondering if you fit in, just sit and think for a moment…I’m meant to stand out. Don’t fit into the stereotyped crowd, shine out like a lit candlestick in a dark room. And as for the others who want nothing but more? Pray for them. Don’t be rude. Show them God’s love…how different and amazing their lives could be with Him. KJV Matthew 5:44 says: "But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;" Show them what their missing out on, and how easy it is to love God. Shine out like candles and maybe they’ll see His love through you choosing not to ‘fit in’.
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Hi there! I'm Katlyn Grace and welcome to the advice section. Here we get real. These blogposts are written from my heart to yours, and I pray they encourage your heart and bring joy to your soul!