I can personally attest to that feeling of restlessness...especially around Valentine's Day. I mean how many red and pink cheesy cards can one store sell? How many boxes of sticky candy? How many posts of mushy gushy couples are you going to endlessly scroll through on Instagram? It get's annoying and your heart sinks.
Why can't I have that, God? Why can't you send me a partner to go through life with? You might ask.
I'll be the first to admit that being single can kind of break your heart in itself somtimes. But while being single might not be the most popular thing, sometimes it's necessary. As I stated earlier, God will not put you in a season to leave you there. He has a purpose.
And you might be asking: Katlyn, how in the world can singleness be beneficial?
Paul stated in the Bible that he learned that whatever state (of life) that he was in, he would be content. Sometimes we're the opposite of content. Can you agree with me? Sometimes we'd like to make life happen with the snap of our fingers, just how we would like it. How foolish is that compared to the God above who can dry up the oceans with the wink of an eye? If we only knew the plans of God, I can almost guarantee we'd stop and let God handle life for us.
Listen girl, I know you want someone to wrap his arms around you and tell you how much he loves you, but I want to tell you something: If your worth is found in a human, you don't have much worth. God says if you follow righteousness, you are an heir to His Kingdom, that you're a child and a friend of His. How much more valuable is that compared to this fleeting life? There is an eternity to hang onto and put your hope in.
That said, singleness can teach you a lot if you let it. While it may feel like it's taking forever, this moment, this season is actually a quick one. This time alone is well spent if you spend it with God. He can be your companion. In fact, you won't feel near as alone as you thought you were. Spend time in careful prayer with the Lord. Read and study your Bible every day. Pray with a heart that cares deeply, for your future spouse. There is nothing wrong with that. In fact, there is everything right with that. Fall into the hands of the only God who can hold your hand through everything in this life. Not even your future spouse can do that.
I know it takes guts to be the "different one," to wait for something only God can provide you with, but I guarantee God will bless you for waiting for His time rather than going into the world and taking matters into your own sinful hands. God is able to do far more than we can even begin to imagine, ask, or think.
"I charge you...that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please."
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Hi there! I'm Katlyn Grace and welcome to the advice section. Here we get real. These blogposts are written from my heart to yours, and I pray they encourage your heart and bring joy to your soul!